Have you ever heard a critical voice come into your mind? Maybe you hear, “I can’t be a good mother and successful at work,” or “It’s too late for me. I’ll never accomplish X.” Let me ask you something- when you hear this critical voice is it your own? Or is it someone else’s? Challenge yourself to consider the source. Perhaps the voice is coming from your mother, a family member, a co-worker, a teacher, or even a friend. You just can’t quite shake their comments. You begin to believe their narratives about you are true. This is a very dangerous territory my sister, because the Word of God says, “as a man thinks in his heart so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).
If we listen to the narrative, we become the narrative. If we hear, “I can’t be a good mother and successful at work,” we will begin to fail at both. If we hear “It’s too late for me. I’ll never accomplish X,” we will give up. Instead of listening, fight the narrative with the Word of God. Tell yourself “I am a fantastic mother AND employee. I CAN do both, and be successful. (Phil 4:13). You can say, “It is not too late for me. God is in control of my destiny, and He has prosperous plans for me that give me hope and a future (Jer. 29:11). When you begin to meditate on what God’s Word says about you, you become it. Besides, if we are not hearing the voice of God, why are we so burdened? Isn’t God’s opinion of us much more valuable than man’s?
I recently asked God how to deal with situations where we feel we are being attacked by others, by their comments or otherwise. God led me to it in 1 Thess 5: 14-15 in a Bible Study, “14 And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. 15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each you and for everyone else.” I believe God gave us a breakthrough road map in just those two short verses!
Be patient. We could just camp out right there and stay for hours, but I think we all know how to be patient and that we need to be patient (it’s just easier said than done). However difficult, this step is refreshing. We are given the freedom to step back and stay calm.
Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong. Isn’t it human nature to come up with a vengeful and malicious plot when we are hurt? Or, maybe you just want to tell that person exactly what you think about them. Take the high road.
Do what’s best for you and for others. God doesn’t want you to continue to stay in an abusive or manipulative relationship. At the same time, we do have to be considerate of how our actions affect others. If we are patient, if we don’t pay back wrong for wrong, and we consider ourselves and others then we should come to understanding of the best way God would have us to handle the conflict.
We are fighting spiritual warfare. I wrote about this recently here. When we recognize these voices are from Satan, we can recognize they are lies. When we listen to his lies, we are not able to hear the truth of God. Our thoughts are very powerful. (Rom 12:2). Satan knows our thoughts are powerful, and that is why he so tirelessly tries to throw those “fiery darts” (Eph 6:16). The sooner we realize the actual source, the sooner we can begin a healing process.