You know those people who can just carry a room? People who others want to be around because their confidence is contagious? Maybe you think of these people as extroverts who have been merely blessed with a specific personality type that allows them to connect with others. But what if I told you confidence is a skill anyone can learn and develop?
I’m currently reading the Business Boutique by Christy Wright, and I listen to many of her seminars. Recently her seminar was on confidence. Being and extraverted introvert (as they call it), I’ve always thought my personality type was something I couldn’t change. No right or wrong, but some people just have a greater comfort level being in front of others. Here’s what she said- “Confidence is a skill.”
What? A skill? How can I learn this skill? My ears perked up. “You decide how people treat you,” she said. “The way you view you is the the way others will view you.” Fair enough. She continued, “We talk ourselves out of things all of the time, because we are listening to ourselves. When we listen to ourselves, we hear fear. When we are listening to ourselves, we hear what we can’t do. When we talk to ourselves, we hear what we can do.”
She gave an example of Roger Bannister. He broke the 4 minute mile in 1954. Before that year, breaking the 4 minute mile was thought to be physically impossible. People accepted that the human body did not have the tenacity to complete a mile span distance outside of the 4 minute time constraint. And no one did- until Roger Bannister. Do you know what happened after Roger Bannister broke the 4 minute mile? Other people started doing it, too. In fact, it has been broken hundreds of times. Why? When people start to believe they can do something- they do it!
What is that dream have you been listening to yourself about instead of talking to yourself? Maybe you’re scared to say that dream out loud to others, because speaking it into existence will require putting wheels in motion. Here’s the thing, you can do it. You can do anything you set your mind to do. Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me.”
Confidence is a learned skill. You practice confidence when you remove the I think and I feel mentality and replace those thoughts with I am and I will. Build confidence by speaking boldly to your dreams and speaking boldly to yourself. Define your dream, make a plan, and go after it. Sure putting your plans into action will be hard work. There will be trials and setbacks, but speak to yourself to get through them. You already have the tools and God given gifts to start.